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Marriage counseling and couples therapy

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Are you tired being misunderstood by your partner?

It is common to have disagreements in relationships. However, when the disagreements turn into arguments, the resolution may feel impossible. Eventually, you may find that you are having the same argument, again and again. It’s exhausting. When the argument escalates, voices escalate.

At times, it is unclear to you why your partner behaves in ways that don’t make sense, that are frustrating, or that lack consideration for you. Each partner hopes that, for just a moment, the other will stop, listen, and understand.

In between each argument, there is quiet.  You keep your distance, but it feels like you’re walking on eggshells. Then you bite your tongue, not wanting to fuel the fire that ignites the conflict. You worry that your arguments are impacting your children, but you just don’t know how to stop arguing. The love that you have, the hope that you have, keep you and your partner together. However, loving someone does not seem to provide you with a resolution.  That is because conflict is one of the most difficult challenges to overcome in a relationship. Yet, the conflict can end. There is hope.

Marriage counseling and couples therapy can help your relationship

The goal of couples therapy is to create a path towards a relationship with a connection where you’re able to reach towards each other to share, to be heard, to be understood, and to understand.

The resolution begins by recognizing that neither of you is to blame for your struggle. Instead, your relationship is stuck in a pattern that blocks you and your partner from being present for each other. Ultimately, you want to care for your partner and have a relationship with respect and feel like you’re understood.

Black couple sitting on couch not talking. Beginning marriage counseling and couples therapy in Torrance, CA can help you communicate hurt feelings or areas where improvement is needed. If you need support, Dr. Carol, an EFT therapist can help. Call now for EFT therapy and couples therapy today!

Dr. Carol’s approach to helping couples

I integrate Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples (EFT) into couple therapy. EFT for couples is an intervention that focuses on the couple’s interactions by illuminating the relationship pattern, uncovering unmet emotional needs, promoting acceptance, and finding new ways to interact.

The first step in couples therapy is to identify how arguments begin and then map out what happens as the argument unfolds. We will clarify the argument by discussing:

  • how it starts
  • what happens within each person during the argument
  • then, what happens between the partners
  • and, how the argument ends

The goal of step one is to create meaning by understanding how arguments begin and unfold.

Once the couple has de-escalated, the second step is to delve deeper into the emotional experience of each partner. Partners learn to slow down, pay attention to the emotions that they are feeling and the messages that they are getting from their partner. Then, partners will move towards sharing their experience with each other.

The third step involves facilitating new solutions and new ways of interacting. These solutions are rooted in a foundation of understanding and organically derived from within the relationship. Thus, solutions are crafted depending on the needs of the couple.

Reasons couples reach out for marriage counseling and couples therapy

Unresolved disagreements:  Disagreements often involve:

  • how to raise the children
  • partner’s behavior
  • how to spend money

Marriage counseling and couples therapy in Torrance, CA can help with these disagreements.

Repetitive arguments: The same argument often crops up, over and over. Sometimes it is thinly disguised as a different argument, but underneath, the same unresolved feelings emerge. Couples therapy can help quiet the argument and provide a safe place to express feelings.

Loneliness: Feeling alone, even though you have a partner, can tear at your heart. Unfortunately, you may feel there is no one to turn to, to share with, to be by your side. Luckily, marriage counseling and couples therapy can help reestablish the connection.

What is holding you back from beginning therapy?

Here are some common reasons that couples choose to not enter therapy:

Middle aged couple smiling together. When you’re ready to begin healing and moving forward, contact an eft therapist. Dr. Carol offers marriage counseling and couples therapy in Torrance, CA for those who need support. Call now and begin EFT therapy!

EFT for couples in Torrance, CA and surrounding areas can help you heal

Love is often the incentive for reaching out for help. Do not let stubbornness get in the way of working on your relationship. I offer a judgment-free, safe place for you to share your experiences without fear of shame, embarrassment, or blame. If your relationship is suffering, EFT for couples can help lead you on a path towards resolution and change.

Begin Marriage Counseling and Couples Therapy in Torrance, CA and Surrounding Areas

Relationships are not easy, yet they are a big part of our lives. If you and your partner or spouse are struggling to connect, then speak with a couples therapist. You can together develop better connection and communication. This is not the end, but a new beginning. If you’re ready to find that relief you have been seeking, then contact Dr. Carol Piccirillo, your online marriage and couples therapist in Torrance, CA. To get started working together, follow these steps:

  1. Contact Dr. Carol Piccirillo
  2. Learn more about your online marriage and couples therapist!
  3. Start healing and connecting with your partner today!

Other Psychotherapy Specialties I offer

Relationships are tough, and if you’re looking to improve communication and connection, marriage counseling and couples therapy can help you. However, if you’re looking for a different kind of support, I offer many options and would be happy to discuss them with you. Other services I provide at my practice in Torrance, CA include Therapy for anxiety, Individual Therapy, and Therapy for Families. When you’re ready, begin your therapy journey in Torrance, CA. My office is close by Palos Verdes, Redondo Beach, Hermosa Beach, and  Manhattan Beach, CA. Additionally, I offer online therapy in California. Call now!